Here’s the list, which may get added to from time to time. You can see the photo collage i made of this here.

I posted this one before on my blog (the old one, more than two years ago now). Oh and for you naysayers out there, he doesn’t have to be PERFECT, these are all things I want him to be working on. I know it’s a path, not a destination. Awareness and effort go a long long way with me. So here goes:
Emotionally available

Intellectual

Compassionate in action

Hard-working

Emotionally, physically, and financially secure.

Knows how to manage his finances appropriately.

Would do anything for anyone kind of man (unselfish)

Accomplished, because they have something to contribute

Supportive (meaning they pay attention and consider my feelings when I am having a hard time, even if it’s just an acknowledgement–”oh, I’m sorry you’re having a hard time…”)

Can say I AM SORRY and mean it

Cares for other living things-including animals

Wants a committed relationship, with me (and that means spending time with me and having an interest in me and my life)

Sexually uninhibited and great sexual chemistry-normal, functioning libido–likes to have regular fun sex but knows how to be intimate sexually as well (can be emotionally connected during sex–in fact, wants to be emotionally connected during sex)

Well-liked (particularly by my friends & family) and sociable

Tells my cousin Michelle that she is right

Self-aware, of faults as well as strengths (and can articulate such)

Accepting and open-minded

Addiction-free

Centered and understands what is most important in life

Free-thinker

Let’s me in, let’s me be an integral part of his life and work–accepts that I have things to offer just out of the goodness of my heart and because it is a way to express love in the third dimension

Optimistic

Trusting and trustworthy

Has integrity

Respects women (respects their bodies, minds, and most of all, their emotional life)

Knows how to make a decision and stick to it

Believes in love (still) Believes in love Believes in love Believes in love. Got it???

Lets me be myself

Is a calming influence on me

Accepts love, gifts, tenderness, silliness, passion, and affection

Loves children

Appreciates my creative side

Understands that conflict is an opportunity for growth

Shares interests with me, at least a few, in music, art, literature, etc.

Possesses a reverence for life

Witty (the ability to make me pee my pants laughing scores bonus points)

Spiritually connected

Hangs in there when it gets tough. Hangs in there when it gets tough. Hangs in there when it gets tough.

Can do a good slow fox trot, or waltz, or both. Other ballroom would be great (swing for example) (or tango, which would mean he is GOD) but I will settle for one good dance.

Within a decent age range for me

Wants to, and can have, one child with me

Lives within my area, so that I can jump in the car on any given day and be with him. And he can jump in the car, and DOES, to see me too.

Wants a committed relationship with me.

Wants to tell everyone about me.

Attends my concerts.

Loves me more than anything else.

Puts me first.

Can’t wait to talk to me or see me.

Wants to be a better person because of me.

Thinks I am the greatest thing since sliced bread and I think he is too.

Is able to express his emotions and feelings

Is in good physical health

Is active and participates in physical activities (biking, skating, walking) with me on a regular basis

Loves my body the way it is

Shovels my snow

Brings out the best in me and I bring out the best in him

Wants to continue to grow and learn

Has a good family life

Is financially supportive

Is warm and caring and tender

Is physically affectionate

Can be serious when necessary

Can be silly when necessary

Loves to kiss (me)

Allows me the space I need as an artist

His parents love me too, and I love them

Emotionally, intellectually, artistically, physically, sexually, financially compatible with me

Calms me when I get hyper

Rational

Is sure about me and having a relationship with me

Wants to marry me and DOES marry me

Accepts me unconditionally for who I am

Oh. And I find him extremely attractive